From a chapter discussing the healing of the roof-crashing paralytic in Mark 2:
The Bible says that our real problem is that every one of us is building our identity on something besides Jesus. Whether it’s to succeed in our chosen field or to have a certain relationship—or [for the paralytic of Mark 2] even to get up and walk—we’re saying, “If I have that, if I get my deepest wish, then everything will be okay.” You’re looking to that thing to save you from oblivion, from disillusionment, from mediocrity. You’ve made that wish into your savior. You never us that term, of course—but that’s what’s happening. And if you never quite get it, you’re angry, unhappy, empty. But if you do get it, you ultimately feel more empty, more unhappy. You’ve distorted your deepest wish by trying to make it into your savior, and now that you finally have it, it’s turned on you.
Jesus says, “You see, if you have me, I will actually fulfill you, and if you fail me, I will always forgive you. I’m the only savior who can do that.” But it is hard to figure that out. Many of us fist start going to God, going to church, because we have problems, and we’re asking God to give us a little boost over the hump so that we can get back to saving ourselves, back to pursuing our deepeist wish. The problem is that we’re looking to something besides Jesus as savior. Almost always when we first go to to Jesus saying, “This is my deepest wish, “ his response is that we need to go deeper…
You see, it wasn’t our depeset wish itself that was the problem, just as it wasn’t wrong for the paralytic to want to walk or for the celebrity to want to succeed or for [anyone] to want to be loved and respected. The fact that we thought getting our deepest wish would heals us, would save us–that was the problem. We had to let Jesus be our Savior.
Tim Keller, King’s Cross: The Story of the World in the Life of Jesus, p. 30, 32